Prosecco & Petals
Wedding planning guide
Having the right people there on your wedding day is crucial to making it the day of your dreams. Scroll down for a step by step guide to creating your wedding guest list without any worries or stress.
Often when deciding on who to invite it is worth creating a decisive statement or question that you can apply to each person for myself it was "Would I want to spend time talking with that person on my wedding day". Other questions could be:
Below is a trialed and tested approach that many couples use to create a wedding guest list.
If this fulfils your budget and size restrictions stop. If not:
If the above two lists have not exhausted the number you want at your wedding then it is worth looking at connections and work-related acquaintances.
No, this is your day and you should feel comfortable and relaxed. If friends or family members have long term partners it is wise to arrange to meet them before the day so they can be invited though.
No, it is important to make a distinction between friends and work colleagues. If any truly overlap then do invite them. However, otherwise, it is much easier to draw an easy line between work and home life. For a guide to inviting work colleagues click here.
There is no formal etiquette about whether kids should be invited or not. The decision should be yours as a couple only. This decision is often based on the following factors:
There are no rules on how many guests to invite and any judgement from others on the numbers chosen should be immediately discounted. This is your day and for some, this may only mean a handful of guests to ensure it is the best day ever. For those wanting a truly intimate day the minimum number of guests should be two excluding the bride and groom in order to have witnesses.
If you have made the hard decision not to invite a friend or family member due to a genuine reason it is worth considering a gentle way to let them know so they do not get upset. Even if they do, dealing with this directly will make any fall out very temporary.
An easy way to soften the blow is to ask a mutual family member or friend to mention casually in conversation that you are having to restrict numbers or have had to restrict friends due to family numbers. This will mean that when you mention it at a later date they will already be prepared.